Description of Problems
1. LOW SELF-IMAGE: HAS A POOR OPINION OF SELF; OFTEN FEELS PUT DOWN OR OF LITTLE WORTH.
a) Feels unlucky, a loser, rejected, mistreated: feels sorry for himself; has no confidence he can be of value to others.
b) Worries that something is wrong with him, feels inadequate, thinks he is good for nothing, is afraid others will find out "how bad I really am."
c) Distrusts others, feels they are against him and want to hurt him, feels he must defend self from others.
d) Is uncomfortable when people look at him or speak to him, can't face up to people confidently and look them in the eyes.
e) Is insecure with "superior" people, doesn't feel good enough to be accepted by others, except those who also feel poorly about themselves.
2. INCONSIDERATE OF OTHERS: DOES THINGS THAT ARE DAMAGING TO OTHERS.
a) Does things that hurt people, enjoys putting people down.
b) Acts selfishly, doesn't care about the needs or feelings of others.
c) Seeks to build self up by manipulating others for his own purposes.
d) Takes advantage of weaker persons and those with problems.
e) Won't help other people, except, possibly, if they are members of his own family or circle of friends.
3. INCONSIDERATE OF SELF: DOES THINGS THAT ARE DAMAGING TO SELF.
a) Puts self down, brings anger and ridicule on self, does things that hurt self.
b) Acts as though he doesn't want to improve self or solve problems.
c) Tries to explain away his problems, or blames them on somebody else.
d) Denies problems, hides from problems, runs away from problems.
e) Doesn't want others to point out his problems or talk about them but resists help with problems.
4. AUTHORITY PROBLEM: DOES NOT WANT TO BE MANAGED BY ANYONE.
a) Views authority as an enemy camp "out to get him".
b) Resents anybody's telling him what to do, does not readily accept advice from either adults or peers.
c) Can't get along with those in authority, gets into big confrontations with authority figures, often over minor matters.
d) Does not respond well to parental control or supervision.
e) Tries to out manoeuvre authority figures, circumventing or manipulating them if possible.
5. MISLEADS OTHERS: DRAWS OTHERS INTO NEGATIVE BEHAVIOUR.
a) Seeks status by being a negative or delinquent leader.
b) Gives support to the negative or delinquent actions of others.
c) Misuses others to achieve his own goals, getting them to do his "dirty work".
d) Wants others to be in trouble with him, afraid of being separate.
e) If others follow him and get in trouble, feels that it is their problem and not his responsibility.
6. EASILY MISLEAD: IS DRAWN INTO NEGATIVE BEHAVIOUR BY OTHERS.
a) Can't make his own decisions and is easily controlled by stronger persons.
b) Can't stand up for what he believes, even when he knows he is right.
c) Is easily talked into committing delinquent acts in order to please or impress others.
d) Behaviour varies from good to bad, according to influence from those with whom e associates.
e) Lets people misuse him, is willing to be somebody else's flunky.
7. AGGRAVATES OTHERS: TREATS PEOPLE IN NEGATIVE, HOSTILE WAYS.
a) Makes fun of others, tries to embarrass them and make them feel low.
b) Seeks attention in negative ways, irritates or annoys people.
c) Makes subtle threats in work or manner.
d) Challenges, provokes, or hassles others.
e) Intimidates, bullies, pushes people around.
8. EASILY ANGERED: IS OFTEN IRRITATED OR PROVOKED, OR HAS TANTRUMS.
a) Frequently becomes upset or explosive but may try to excuse such behaviour as naturally "having a bad temper".
b) Easily frustrated, unable to accept failure or disappointments.
c) Responds to the slightest challenge or provocation, thus making other people's problems his own.
d) So sensitive about himself that he cannot stand criticism or disagreement with his ideas.
e) Easily upset if someone shouts at him, points a finger at him, touches him, or shows any negative feelings toward him.
9. STEALING: TAKES THINGS THAT BELONG TO OTHERS.
a) Thinks it is all right to steal if you are sneaky enough not to get caught.
b) Doesn't respect others and is willing to hurt another person to get what he wants.
c) Steals to prove he is big and important or to prove he is "slick" enough to get away with it.
d) Steals because he is afraid peers will think he is weak or chicken if he doesn't.
e) Doesn't have confidence that he could get things by his own effort.
10. ALCOHOL OR DRUG PROBLEM: MISUSES SUBSTANCES THAT COULD HURT SELF.
a) Afraid he won't have friends if he doesn't join with them in drugs or drinking.
b) Thinks drugs are cool, tries to impress others with his drug knowledge or experience.
c) Uses the fact that many adults abuse drugs (such as alcohol) as an excuse for his involvement.
d) Can't really be happy without being high, can't face his problems without a crutch.
e) Acts as though he doesn't care about damaging or destroying self.
11. LYING: CANNOT BE TRUSTED TO TELL THE TRUTH.
a) Tells stories because he thinks others will like him better.
b) Likes to live in a make-believe, fantasy world.
c) Is afraid of having his mistakes discovered and so lies to cover up. May even make up false problems to hide real ones.
d) Has told so many lies that he may lie even when there is no apparent need to lie.
e) Twists the truth to create a false impression but doesn't see this as lying.
12. FRONTING: PUTS ON AN ACT RATHER THAN BEING REAL.
a) Needs to appear big in the eyes of others, always needs to try to prove himself.
b) Bluffs and cons people, thinks loudness and slick talk are better than reason.
c) Acts superior, always has to be right, argues, needs to be best in everything, resents being beaten.
d) Clowns or shows off to get attention.
e) Plays a role to keep from having to show his real feelings to others.